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As the U.S. faces a crisis of fatherlessness, some groups are
campaigning to get Dad back in the house. On the day of the Million Man
March last October, President Clinton addressed an audience at the
University of Texas. While he focused on race relations, the president
digressed at the end of his speech. "The single biggest social problem
in our society may be the growing absence of fathers from their
children's homes because it contributes to so many other social
problems," said Clinton.
Clinton's call represents one more thrust in a movement with growing
national momentum: the push for fatherhood. The Million Man March, the
National Fatherhood Initiative, books, conferences, think tanks, and
football stadiums full of Promise Keepers all aim to improve men's
participation in their children's lives.
"There certainly has been an increased recognition that we are faced
with a crisis of fatherlessness in the U.S.," says David Blankenhorn,
president of the Institute for American Values in New York City and
author of Fatherless America: Confronting Our Most Urgent Social
Problem. Blankenhorn also co-founded the National Fatherhood
Initiative, an advocacy group based in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. "At the
broadest level, we're trying to change our culture," says group
director Wade Horn.
The group's best estimate is that nearly 40 percent of American
children currently don't live with their biological fathers. The
consequences of these absences can be severe. Seventy percent of
juveniles in state reform institutions grew up with one or neither
parent. Forty-three percent of adult inmates grew up in single-parent
homes, mostly without dads. Thirty percent of children living with
never-married mothers and 22 percent with divorced mothers repeat a
grade, compared with 12 percent of those living with both biological
parents.
The National Fatherhood Initiative aims to tackle the issue through
several channels in addition to the public service messages it already
produces. Using religious and civic groups already in place, the
initiative hopes to instill them with its message of paternal
participation. The group also thinks laws should be changed to slow the
rate of divorce, welfare reform should encourage fathers'
participation, and schools should adopt father-specific curricula in
family-life courses. Companies need to become "father-friendly," giving
fathers time off through paternity leave, flex-time, and telecommuting
options.
The problem of absent fathers will not turn around overnight.
"There's a tendency for expectations to be too simplistic," says
Michael Lamb, head of social and emotional development at the National
Institute for Child Health and Human Development in Bethesda, Maryland.
Even so, Lamb views efforts toward more engaged fathers as "positive
developments."
Blankenhorn acknowledges that change will come slowly, but notes the
swift rate at which the debate has shifted. A seminal point arrived in
May 1992, when then-Vice President Dan Quayle made his famous "Murphy
Brown" speech, criticizing the television character for her decision to
have a child out of wedlock. The speech drew ire from people who saw it
as an attack on the valiant efforts of single mothers rather than as a
criticism of uninvolved fathers. Yet a mere three years later,
advocates for single mothers are saying that fathers should help care
for their children. "Consciousness-raising has been achieved," says
Blankenhorn.
Few suggest that parental styles return to the "good old days."
"It's a mistake to say we need to go back to some earlier version of
fatherhood," says Wade Horn. "Thirty years ago, fathers were around,
but the roles they played were restricted and contributed to the trend
toward absent fathers."
The phenomenon has its positive flip side. Horn sees fatherlessness
as a broader trend, but he also notes a "minor trend toward more
responsible fatherhood." These are the men who go through Lamaze
classes, read books to their kids, and even stay home while Mom takes
on the role of breadwinner.
Although many absent fathers will never become superdads, there are
lots of things businesses, governments, and communities can do to help
men become more active parents, says David Popenoe, sociology professor
at Rutgers University and author of the forthcoming Life without
Father. Although he dislikes Sweden's welfare model, he praises its
policy that permits new fathers to take up to 15-month job leaves.
"Most workplaces [in the U.S.] don't have a clue kids are there who
have to be taken care of," he says.
The negative signals men pick up from employers, ex-wives, teachers,
and others may help fuel their lax parenting. But in New Expectations:
Community Strategies for Responsible Fatherhood, James Levine and
Edward Pitt of The Fatherhood Project at New York City's Families and
Work Institute cite examples of programs that have substantially
increased fathers' involvement. The best strategy, they say, is simply
to assume that fathers will be involved with their children.
For more information about the National Fatherhood Initiative, call
(717) 581-8860. The Families and Work Institute can be reached at (212)
465-2044.
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